Its was written in shorthand so its hard to read. And I really agree that in any marriage no matter what the professions, each spouse wants to come to a welcoming and communicative environment, they don't want bottled up tense frustration. Thanks again for the continued comments and replies to my edit.
It sucks but ultimately what Mormonism does to people is it makes them value adherence to church more than their relationships with people.
The gold is in the footnotes and sources linked from those new essays.